Did you finish all of your curriculum this year? I’m guessing you didn’t. I didn’t either.
Guess what? The majority of us are leaving things undone. And it’s ok!
Plans are helpful, goals are great. It’s wonderful to check things off lists and to move on to new things. Goals spur us on and encourage us to continue striving through the hard days.
Yet we often feel like we failed our kids when we didn’t complete everything we planned. We feel like we failed ourselves, and even feel like we failed the Lord. Moms are prone to feeling like failures even when they have poured their heart and soul into raising their children all year long. Maybe you are reviewing your year, planning for next year, and feeling discouraged and inadequate.
Yes, we have bad days. Yes, we sin against our children. Yes, we waste time and choose laziness sometimes. But God is gracious and forgiving. And in our weakness, God’s power is made known.
Remind yourself every day…God’s grace is sufficient for you. It is sufficient for all of us, for all of our failings, and for all time. His power is made perfect in your weakness. (2 Cor. 12:9-10)
Put your confidence in the only one that is sufficient to meet all the needs of your children and find rest in Him.
This year, we added a new baby to the family. My children learned to care for me while I rested at the end of my pregnancy, they learned to resolve some of their own conflicts, they learned to love a new baby, they learned gentleness, they learned perseverance and flexibility as we rearranged our days. They also learned math, science, history, and phonics. And we didn’t finish the books.
Homeschooling isn’t just a curriculum. The ultimate goal isn’t finishing books and checking things off lists. It’s about training our children to love the Lord, to enjoy learning, and to grow into adults that are willing to serve the Lord and the people in their communities with their gifts and knowledge.
You are not failing your children when you teach them conflict resolution, homemaking skills, and how to rest. You are not failing them when you go exploring, teach organizing, or practice caring for others. These are the things of everyday life. Think back over the things you did well and thank God for those things!
As you begin to plan for next year, don’t allow feelings of failure to overwhelm you. Start again, finish your books or move on. It’s your decision. Pray about your options, make the best decision you can, and move forward confident in the work God has called you to.